and I felt her skin, she felt very very warm,
she felt feverish
and Megan just had a strange fever thing on monday, for about 12 hours- she woke up the next morning fine, but had a fever of 101 and nothing else.
Well, took Sarah's temp and it's 101
ugh... okay, no big deal, no other symptoms, but she's upset about the cramping and remember this is at 5:20AM
I get her set up, she usually likes to go on an ipad while on the potty and I really wanted to go back to bed
but she needed me to rub her tummy, sometimes that helps
Fast forward a bit in to the morning, Megan is off to theatre camp for a few hours (so great she can get herself there)
and Ty had been playing with neighbor friend, and it went from basketball to nerf guns
now this usually doesn't end well
in fact, we have a very strict rule, no nerf wars..... it ends the same way EVERYTIME!
behaviors, hitting, obsessed over it
so I had told him he could do targets with the nerf guns but no nerf wars...
there is a big difference to how he responds- it gives more of a focus compared to running like a chicken with its head cut off...
and guess what he still started to play nerf wars........ and yep everything blew up.. and he even tried to tell me that he promises to not have a behavior (as if he can stay in control of himself- I WISH)
and long story short- yep, I have scratches on me, I was kicked and it all went down hill from that point.....
over what???
Nerf WARS..... this is why we don't do it... he has never been able to do that
with friends especially.... his mind just begins to spiral...
and what sucks more is he had been doing SO WELL!!!
we really have had a good little run of minimal behaviors up until this morning over what I knew was already a bad idea the minute he was talking about it! UGH
and then in the middle of "having to help control him"
Sarah gets another bad cramp and feels like she's going to vomit (that happens a lot, because things are either going to go out one way, or force things out the other way
it's usually just a feeling she gets (so far anyway)
but I don't take it lightly- so I get her set up on the potty, barf tray just in case (that's how frequent it is, we keep it in the bathroom )
and she is still on the potty, but in less pain now, which is good
Ty finally chilled and is doing something with a box, dogs, and some training or something
I don't want to turn around and distract him because he has finally let go for now of the obsessed though of nerf wars and is onto something different
but what sucks is , now he just cannot go out and play with his friend today.. the entire cycle will start all over
and when he becomes more dysregulated like that, the more he is oppositional and jumps into behaviors
it's such a crappy cycle once it starts
ugh...
so lots of attention and focus to keep him occupied and distracted from those thoughts (it's literally keeping him away from his own mind...... when he can't control his mind, it gets him in trouble, and it becomes a very dangerous cycle
but trust me, it's so not easy to keep him constantly distracted from himself
esp when I have one not feeling well today
these can be some tough days... but it's been worse and we always got through those!
well sort of ;) and just had a short break from this post because yep
his thoughts got the best of him and water is now everywhere, garbage can lid thrown and now broken
shoes were flying, and anything else he could find
ugh... and worse is I know at this point he is hungry (he hasn't eaten yet today, which is so unusual- it's usually it's own obsessed routine first thing in the morning)
and he is also tired, he had not yet napped this morning, as he always does
really not much different than a cranky tired, hungry 2 years old
but he's 10 and he's much stronger now
and here is a picture I just took of how it all ended:
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