He hadn't left our home environment in almost four weeks. But we needed to pick up daddy after his endoscopy. Luckily his behavior, his coping, his ability to at least co-regulate has been much better recently.
Probably or more accurately -because we haven't left our house... that's what ultimately helps him to be able to be the joyful, happy, calmer, more regulated little boy that he truly is.
But we had to leave this environment. That's just how things are sometimes, despite our best efforts.
We did though- he did it. It wasn't easy, trust me. First thing he said was we need to stop and buy daddy a toy.
Now as sweet as that is...... it's a HUGE SIGNAL : this is what happens- his obsession comes up and it's all about 'BUYING'.... no idea why- but this is what for years has gone on- whenever we get in the car- and behaviors occur because of it (or because of lack of satisfying this obsession I should say
So at first thought it could start to go bad quickly- he had Sadie on his lap- which is good and I 100% ignored his "obsessive thoughts, and requests"
and quickly turned the subject back to Sadie..... phew... conflict averted for the moment.
Now let's just get through this...... and we did.
But with that day behind us...........
I had no idea what today was going to bring.
I never know what the day will bring.
But we left our house.... this could turn sour quickly. However, it's been pretty okay.
And even with the one little behavior he did have, he didn't aggress further.
In fact, he chilled out- I waited him out and ultimately it was all settled.
That pretty much never happens ....... when he starts in with a behavior, it almost always continues with further aggression and behaviors where we have to HELP HIM CALM DOWN! (So that we or he doesn't get hurt)
That's a pretty big deal in my " parenting a child with severe behaviors who can't leave our home environment book"!
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