I just witnessed a moment that has not occurred, well probably ever!
Megan had an early out day so was home at lunch time.
Ty and I were home with the behaviorist.
Now here is the big news! Ready- I'm shaking while I type this because I'm still in shock!
Megan and Ty were in the kitchen TOGETHER baking brownies TOGETHER. They were engaged in a conversation about who was going to do what.
They agreed, negotiated, asked questions, politely answered, and did I mention they were in the kitchen TOGETHER!
Same physical space. They have not been able to be in the same room let alone the same space in months, and even that is once in a blue moon type event.
These two are just oil and water. Constantly causing issues- and this goes both ways.
So same physical space, talking to each other, cooperating with each other. This went on for over 20 minutes.
The behaviorist is always timing things to record for the data.
This was truly an amazing moment. AMAZING! I've never seen Megan and Ty get along for more than 2 minutes. And trust me it always ends badly.
I almost cried listening to them in the kitchen (I was in the other room, only prompting or facilitating when necessary).
This was the most beautiful moment I've experienced with my children in a long time. And what is more incredible was that it was with the 2 least likely to engage.
Ty and Sarah, I definitely enjoy watching their relationship blossom on the good days.
But Ty and Megan, well I just wanted them to not kill each other when they were in each others presence.
Sibling stuff, yes. Both constantly needing control over their external environment that, well, yeah that is a problem when you have two trying to control everything.
And both struggle socially so much, it's hard when there's not one who can help lead the interaction.
They have also gotten into a very long standing pattern that Ty just loves Megan's attention, and that includes the negative attention. He doesn't care- he loves to see her react, and that gives him attention.
It's a constant work in progress, especially for Megan since she's older and well a little more capable (most of the time).
But today, well this was just beautiful. I was so proud of her!
I was so proud of him.
It was a moment that gave me a glimmer of hope that through all this hardship and struggles, and challenges:
We are a family and my children deserve to be happy. And they can be happy- together!
I know we are doing the right thing for Ty. It's what he needs.
It's what our family needs.It's right now the only way to truly help our son in the way that actually helps him!
It's what he needs, right now- and that's why we live in the moment.
To experience a day like today!
Yeah for our family!
This is called kicking Autism's butt!
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