Nope- not gonna mention how he's been sleeping in until 7:00am the last 6 out 7 days. Nope!
Not gonna mention that I haven't been hit, kicked, spit on, or even threatened in 3 days!!! And even before that, it was only, as I call them half attempts. He always responded to the consequence- the same consequence and choices he has always gotten for hitting, kicking, spitting, throwing. Two choices: dog bed or hammock swing.
And he's in this place that allows him to make the choice and not go into fight or flight! But I'm not gonna mention that AT ALL!
I won't dare write that he's been so kind towards his sisters and so engaging with me during the day. Nope, not gonna write it!
I'm not even going to write about how his smile has been lighting up the room and his laughter is so joyful to our house. Nope.... can't do it!
Because if I say any of these things that have been so nice and peaceful for our family the last week or so, then I"m afraid it might all go away- as it usually does.
You see, we aren't doing anything different then we've ever done before. Nothing- we parent the same way- our family unit is the same with one exception.
My little guy. He's what is different. How he responds is different. How he interacts is different.
How he smiles is different. How he laughs is different. But we've been here before.
Once a long time ago, we had 2 weeks of this "bliss". I wouldn't call it "normal"- but it's a functioning level that things in our house are better, calmer, nicer, more normal for us!
Everyone has a different normal.
We call this normal for us, however we have one big caveat......
we don't leave our house. We don't go anywhere, no one comes over.
This is what helps our son get to this place of living. Routine is more than routine. Schedule is like no one other schedule. Isolation is like no other.
Sameness in EVERYTHING!
This is about as "normal" and functioning that our family ever gets.
It's this extremeness that is required to get our son to this level of living.
Are you still wondering how we can do this?
Just like that picture I posted a few days ago- we can never make life "FAIR", but I will do everything in my god given powers to make it JOYFUL!
Because really, what is life, if you don't have joy and happiness.
Talk about finding happiness from within, huh!!!!!
Now, just to make this all continue. It's not easy keeping every star up in the universe aligned just perfect so that my son can be happy.
It's really not easy- but I will certainly enjoy these moments while we have them!
And pray that even WHEN we slip back WHEN he slips back, WHEN the stars up in the sky get all jumbled again-
it's not so terrible!
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